1. Do you hear yourself telling people: " I have my own values and principles. They should be respected under all kinds of circumstances.", or something similar?
If so, what would you say when someone laughs at you for never skipping classes?
If not, why could be the reasons?
It’s always not easy to keep one’s own principles, for there are too many voices around which force one to adjust to the community. For me, however, I often tell my friends that I have my own standards in doing things, even though they always think of me as a person who was as obstinate as a mule and it is just too hard to change what I have set myself to do. For instance, I always get a tight schedule, and I always say no when my friends ask me to go out. So one day they tell me, “You are a perfect girl except your insisting on following your own timetable.” I prefer to do things in my own way because that makes me feel more comfortable, but that is not to say I cannot accept others suggestions. I will adopt others’ opinions when I think the suggestions are good and will not waste time. Therefore, when someone laughs at me for never skipping classes, perhaps I will simply reply to the question that I prefer doing this way. I’m not going to say anything to try to describe my decision as if I am eager for understanding. I think I have to be responsible to the courses I choose. As a college student, I should decide for myself instead of blindly following others. Thus I can pursue what I really desire in life.
2. Do you believe everything people tell you? Why or why not?
For instance, when your friend tells you that working as a part-time waiter in a fancy restaurant will get you a lot of money, how would you respond?
I do not believe everything people tell me because the information is only for reference. It is I myself who should distinguish the truth from false in the words people say. For me, it is important to cultivate the ability to analyze the truth of things by one’s self since no one will always intend to be helpful after stepping into the society. Therefore, if my friend tells me that working as a part-time waiter in a fancy restaurant will get me a lot of money, I will ask why it is so profitable and how the working environment is. I will be deliberating upon the details and then decide whether I should believe it or not.
hi, Heidi
回覆刪除I think the four points in this clip are related to each other. We have to keep our own principles then absorb knowledge and information as possible as we can and take action. With these values and principles, we can therefore decide what we want and what we don't want; what should do and what should not do. I think I have several values and principles. I keep those in mind while I seldom tell others. Under this situation, I guess maybe I am not brave and determined enough to speak out and this may give me excuses to change my mind when meeting certain condition. I don't think it is good but for the first situation, I think I will not feel bad and start to skip classes, but I will tell them my thought and idea. It doesn't matter for me whether they buy it or not since everyone has their thought, they have theirs and I have mines, and what we do reflects what we think. I respect that. and for the second one,if my friend told me so, I will take what he or she said as reference but not take all of them. Like I said, everyone has different values and situation; however, it doesn't apply to everyone. He or she may think it is good while others probably have different idea. For this situation, I will listen to their sharing, and consider whether this job suits me or not first instead of applying for it immediately. I think it is good to listening to other's opinions and suggestion; otherwise, everyone will become a tyrant. At the same time, we should keep us from following others blindly.
wendy
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回覆刪除Hi,Wendy,
回覆刪除Thank you for sharing your comments with me.
I also tend to keep my own opinion in mind because I am afraid of being too subjective. But I often feel stiff when I don not speak out and it seems like I don not have my own principle. Maybe I really have to rethink the whole thing, find out the main problem, and try to make some changes.
Just like you mentioned, it’s good and important to listen to other’s opinions and suggestions, we can not live only by our own viewpoint. In this so called “Global Village”, it is essential to broaden our horizon, so we have to equip ourselves with the ability to absorb new knowledge and speak out our opinion; we share different thoughts, we communicate with each other, and we come to have better understanding.
Heidi