Many times, we are mad at people for the things they have done. However, we also hear people say: “I am doing this for YOU!” or “I meant well. You will understand when you grow up”. When hearing responses like this, have you ever tried to calm down and rethink the whole thing? rethink about things from a new angel? or rethink about things with a different logic? Why or why not? Give a real example and elaborate on it.
About a month ago, I had a hard time discussing with my parents about whether to go to Kaohsiung to see a performance by a famous dance company alone. From my point of view, it was a precious opportunity to admire my favorite dance company, and the program was once and for all. From my parents’, in contrast, my decision was based on emotion rather than rational thought. So they didn’t permit my request. They said they meant well, but I was so dejected that I turned away to refuse their explanation. I just couldn’t understand why they refused me to go.
At that night, I contemplated the reason why my parents didn’t allow me to see the play. I knew I was impetuous and I should have listened to what they wanted to tell me. At last, I calmed myself down and decided to listen to their analysis. So one day later, I went to have a talk with them.My parents felt glad and were willing to explain the reasons. They said that first, since I am just a freshman in college, I am not familiar with Chiayi, not to mention about the route from Chiayi to Kaohsiung. Second, it is dangerous for an eighteen-year-old girl to go to see a performance, which will be over later than ten at night, alone without company. Third, the show will be held on October thirty-first, what if I happened to have an important thing to do on that very day? How can I make sure that I will not waste the money spending on the ticket? After hearing these considerations, I realized how childish I was, and apologized to my tolerant parents.
Indeed, my parents have experienced more than I have and what they think must have their reasons. Next time I will think twice before making a decision.
For this question, I think I rethink about thing from different logic with my growing age when hearing theses words. I do believe that sometimes people say something for our own good but this result doesn’t fit all other things at all, either. In my childhood, my grandmother always asked me and my sister to take a nap after the lunch. I was annoyed by this “regulation” (Grandmother would force us to do so with a stick) I didn’t want to sleep at all and the most important of all is that I wanted to play outside with my friends at that time just like what others did! And my grandmother always said that “I’m doing this for your own good; you will understand when you grow up!
回覆刪除I couldn’t and didn’t want to understand what she said at that time; however, after the following year, when I went to junior high school, I knew the importance of taking a rest! It’s good for our health. Till now, there are many things going differently from what I’m thinking and I think it’s a good chance for me to view things in a different way. Therefore, I calm down and try to take a different stance since there could be a different result or feeling. I find it’s interesting: I will totally change my thought after rethinking while sometimes I still keep my position much firmly!
Hi,Wendy,
回覆刪除Thank you for sharing with me your own experience about your childhood.
I think that people tend to rebel the rule set for them, and I’m no exception. Just like a spring, if it receives more pressure, it will return to its original shape or position in a even more powerful strength.
Even though the rule is out of good intention, it is somehow not easy job realizing the meaning of the rule when people have not felt the same way as the elders have. People often understand that after encountering the same situation.
I think this also has something to do with the last topic. It’s important to listen to others opinion, though that is not to say people should take them all, because we are not sure whether our viewpoint is totally right. Through others’ opinion can people rethink about the whole thing and they can get better chance to do the thing right.
Heidi